About Ben

Shew... this thing needs updating. Its a hard thing to do. I haven't changed very much. I'm just getting gray.

The Basics:  I’m 40, brown hair, green eyes, goatee, 5' 10", 238. Top. Ugh... I should make this into a Power Point presentation. Drug free. HIV- Christian. I live in Mt. Airy, NC, better known to the world has Mayberry.

At Length:  Someone told me once I was a Renaissance Man. That meant I was into all kinds of things and not very good at any of them. And, well, I'd have to say that not far from the truth. I am good at some of them, but because there is so much, I never have the time to go beyond good or adequate. I have more interests and hobbies than any one person ought to, but that's me. However, recently I've come to the realization that all my hobbies, responsibilities, and chores in addition to work, gym, eat, and sleep has kept me from a healthy social life (note:  this does not mean sex). I'm always going and going and I realized all this crap is taking the place of people in my life and enjoying life in general. I don't want this description of me to be some long dramatic emotional gut-wrenching (embarrassing) window unto my life like so many people write. I'm just saying this is where I am at this update; August 10, 2009. So I'm working to reduce clutter and slow down. Its going to take awhile. I'm webmaster for 2-3 clubs and member of multiple organizations. My basement is full of tons of crap that I try to maintain. Its gotta go. Not all of it, but Ben is stopping to smell the roses. Speaking of....

My passion is, plants. Although many of the plants do have flowers, this does not mean I like to put posies in a vase and arrange them all pretty. I like plants... period. I am happy to be growing green beans or tatters as long as I'm growing something. Actually the flowers I grow usually stay on the plant where they belong until they fall off, or I take them to my grandmothers.

More specifically I like hiking, hockey games, camping, fishing, my aquarium, rodeos, weight lifting, botany, all kinds of music, investing, computers, gardening, reading (sci fi mostly), traveling, and spending time with my friends. I am not one to sit still. I have to be doing something. I used to travel a lot, but I haven't as much lately. That is changing too. I don't go somewhere to lay around a pool. I might be walking down the beach, but I'm not going to lay on it and do nothing.

I don’t drink, don’t smoke, don’t dip, and don’t chew, but most of my friends are a little less like that. More muscle than there used to be. I go to the gym several days a week depending on my work schedule, but I don't strive to be Arnold. I just want to be healthy and in decent shape. I'm getting there....... slowly. I have a bike now and consistently getting out to ride it. I've lost a few pounds too. A very picky eater. I like country to rock to classical music. I can change my own oil, but I don't claim to a big stud daddy. I'm a sucker for a good back rub and a romantic man.

I refuse to live the stereotypical gay lifestyle. Many things describe me better before "gay man" comes to mind. I don’t know anything about fashion, beauty pageants, or soap operas. I'm just a regular guy. It's about attitude. Are you a gay guy or a regular guy that just happens to also be gay? One is defined by their sexuality. The other is defined by the person they are and their sexuality is a piece of the whole.

I have a decent sense of humor, but it doesn't seem to come out in this thing. Anyway, if you are still interested, drop me a mail, a G-rated pic, and tell me about yourself. I have an entire web page. You can do better than one line of state. No, I do not have nekkid pics.